The aim of the article is to open up for further discussion and empirical research on the relation of men's violence to men as parents. Drawing upon previous research on men's violence against women, it is suggested that a man's relationship with his partner and relationships with his children can be conceptualized as arenas linked to an overall process of gender constitution. Also discussed is how Swedish policy creates a context for men’s identity work and practices as parents that is enabling with regard to men’s access to children, but restraining with regard to action against men’s violence post-separation.