The aim of the present study was to describe violent events as narrated by care providers involving themselves. During a 12-month period, care providers reported 149 violent events. Using consecutive purposive sampling with maximum variation, 61 events were further investigated using narrative interviews with involved care providers. They were involved either as victims, perpetrators or as witnesses. The narratives were analysed using a qualitative descriptive analysis. The presentation of the result includes contextual aspects and three themes: 'misunderstanding each other', 'invasion of personal space' and 'acceptance of violence in work'. These themes represent a process of violence in the narratives. Mutual misunderstanding may be seen as an antecedent to violent events. Invasion of personal space is a theme revealing what violence is about. Acceptance of violence seems to be a natural consequence for the caregivers because the events are seen as unavoidable, impossible to solve and as a constituent of daily work.